Divorce is one of the most difficult experiences a family can face, not only for the couple involved but also for any children caught in the middle. During this time, a child’s emotional security should always come first. When children are exposed to anger, confusion or sadness, it can have lasting effects on their mental health and influence their future relationships.
At Clapham & Collinge Solicitors, we understand that while relationships may end, parenthood does not. As experienced family law solicitors in Norwich and Norfolk, we support parents with compassion, clarity, and practical guidance through every stage of separation. Our focus is on achieving fair, child-centred outcomes that reduce conflict, protect wellbeing, and preserve family relationships for the future.
Understanding children’s needs during a divorce
Every child reacts differently to divorce, depending on their age, circumstances and personality. Some may feel confused or anxious, while others may experience sadness, guilt or fear about what lies ahead. Recognising and validating these emotions is the first step towards supporting your children through this change.
Protecting children during divorce means creating space for their emotions, maintaining stability and offering reassurance that they are loved and supported by both parents.
At Clapham & Collinge, our family law team has supported Norfolk families for over 70 years, helping them navigate these challenges with sensitivity and understanding. We’ve put together some tips, based on our experience, to guide parents through how to prioritise their children’s wellbeing during a divorce.
Communication is key
Open, honest communication can make a world of difference. Children need to know that both parents still love them and that they are not to blame for what’s happening. These conversations can be difficult, so it’s important to approach them calmly, using language that suits your child’s age and level of understanding.
If you have children of different ages, consider speaking to them separately to ensure each child feels heard and supported. Avoid involving them in adult disputes or using them as messengers between parents, as this can create unnecessary emotional pressure and make them feel responsible for the situation.
Maintain stability and routine
During times of uncertainty, routine brings comfort. Keeping day-to-day life as consistent as possible helps children feel secure and in control. This includes maintaining regular school attendance, after-school activities and time with friends and family.
Consistency is most effective when both parents work together collaboratively. Co-parenting with shared values and communication helps children see that, although their parents are no longer together, they are still united in putting their needs first.
Keep conflict away from the children
According to Bedford Borough’s Safeguarding Children Partnership (2024), it’s not the separation itself that has the most impact on children, but the level of conflict between parents. Exposure to ongoing disagreements can cause distress, anxiety, and behavioural changes.
To protect your children’s wellbeing, aim to keep conflict away from them and communicate in a calm, constructive way. When this feels difficult, professional support can help. At Clapham & Collinge, we often recommend mediation and collaborative law to resolve disputes amicably and avoid court where possible, helping families reach fair, practical agreements that work for everyone involved.
Seek professional support when you need it
No parent should feel they have to navigate this process alone. Family counsellors, child psychologists, and legal professionals can all provide valuable guidance and emotional support.
Clear legal advice can help reduce uncertainty, protect your rights, and allow you to focus on your children rather than the complexities of the divorce process. With over 70 years of experience handling sensitive family matters, from child arrangements to financial settlements, our solicitors offer a calm, compassionate approach designed to make every step easier.
Planning for the future
Divorce doesn’t just involve making immediate arrangements; it also means planning for long-term wellbeing. Co-parenting agreements, communication plans, and regular reviews can help reduce conflict and ensure decisions evolve as your children grow.
At Clapham & Collinge, we can help draft and formalise these agreements, making them legally binding where necessary. This ensures that both parents have clarity and that the children’s best interests remain at the centre of every decision.
How Clapham & Collinge can help
With more than 70 years of experience supporting families across Norfolk, Clapham & Collinge Solicitors have built a reputation for providing clear, compassionate advice tailored to each client’s unique situation.
From child arrangements and mediation to divorce and separation, our friendly and understanding team are here to help you make informed choices that protect your children’s wellbeing and your family’s future.
We have offices in Norwich, North Walsham, and Sheringham, offering local, in-person support whenever you need it.
If you’re going through a separation and want to help protect your children’s wellbeing, our family law solicitors are here to help. Contact us today to arrange a confidential consultation and take the next step toward a calmer, more positive future for your family.
Norwich
Tel: 01603 693500
Sheringham
Tel: 01263 823398
North Walsham
Tel: 01692 660230